3 Ways To Feel Sexy During Menopause

My sex drive had hit a major roadblock. I can't believe I haven't had sex for 3 months! I feel so fortunate that I have a loving, supportive relationship. But truthfully, in terms of intimacy, I'd lost interest. And it didn't help that I felt so so dry down there and sex has become painful.

I went from feeling pretty normal in that department to having no sexual desire. I mean, none. Zero. Zilch. Sure, I'd hit perimenopause but I always thought all that vaginal dryness and hot flashes stuff was over-exaggerated. But suddenly they'd cropped up and suddenly I'd hit a major roadblock in my life. How am I supposed to be interested in sex when it's so painful and when I feel so dry? I worried that it would negatively affect my wonderful relationship.

Now, I'm a proactive woman so I tried all my go-to tricks, yoga, dancing, just trying to feel confident in my body. Nothing worked. Even self-intimacy — the itching, dryness, and pain were such that I had to stop. I was seriously concerned about my dryness and loss of libido.

Eventually I wound up at my local pharmacy — overwhelmed by lotions and potions. I wanted something natural and safe without fragrance (and other things that should NOT be anywhere near my intimate area) that would eradicate the incessant dryness and pain during sex. Something — anything — that would restore this girl's verve? I wasn't asking for much, but there was nothing like that on the shelves.

When I complained to my best friend Casey, she's a little older than me and went through a pretty intense menopausal journey, truly the works. Casey called out that along with sleep loss, mood swings, dryness, and hot flashes, a depressed libido is a common part of the menopause experience. Depressed is right. I was depressed just thinking about it!

Casey assured me that my sex drive wasn't gone forever and that painless sex was possible. I could feel playful again by adding 3 small actions to my routine — a solid sleep schedule, easing into self-pleasure, and a game-changing vaginal lotion from Kindra.

I highly doubted a simple product or supplement could reboot this girl's sex life. However, I decided to look into Casey's recommendations. Not only was the site beautiful but a few things really caught my eyes. Made by women for women, Kindra's products are natural, 100% estrogen-free peri and post-menopausal essentials. Yes to all of that!

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All-Star Vaginal Lotion

I quickly zoned in on The Daily Vaginal Lotion. It only makes sense that vaginal comfort is essential in boosting and maintaining my desire and sensuality. The lotion's formula features an essential blend of feather-light, ultra-hydrating ingredients, including coconut oil, sunflower seed oil, safflower seed oil, vitamin E, and moisture-loving humectants.

It sounded natural, but would it be powerful enough to restore and replenish this woman? Clinicians say yes. Plus, I loved the fact that beyond being estrogen-free, it's progesterone-free, paraben-free, fragrance-free, and non-greasy.

Kindra's Daily Vaginal Lotion soothes sensitive tissue and offers gentle relief. It's been shown to reduce pain during sex for 91% of women after only two weeks of use. With four weeks of regular application, 73% of users report no symptoms of vaginal dryness. Wow! I was ready to give it a try.

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Use It Or Lose It

My same-old, same-old self-pleasure groove was good enough 6 months ago. But apparently, it had hit its sell-by date. I wasn't even half as aroused as usual and couldn't remember what felt good anymore.

I needed to adapt to this changing body ASAP. Turns out, self-stimulation helps reduce pain and dryness by activating natural lubrication — a critical step toward feeling like my old self in the bedroom again.

Kindra's Daily Vaginal Lotion was easy to apply with my fingers to get the moisture right where I needed it. Kindra recommends 1-3 pumps based on my pain level that day. So I started with 1 pump and worked up to 2.

Truth be told, there was a slight stinging sensation the first day or two, but a number of customer reviews had mentioned it so I was prepared. And while the lotion's not a lubricant per se, it can assist in alleviating the stress and tenseness that perimenopause brings on.

And Kindra's lotion didn't disappoint. That and self-pleasure contributed to getting me right back in the saddle.

Catch Some ZZZZZZZs

Our natural circadian rhythms control hormone secretion, so the quality of my sleep relates to the quality of my orgasms. A steady nighttime routine helps the brain and body wind down. Once it's time to hit the hay, I make sure to avoid electronics and block out any unnecessary light and noise.

One other trick is herbal reinforcement such as Kindra's Sleep Enhancing Supplementwhich can be super helpful. The Sleep Supplement combines stress-busting Ashwagandha with antioxidant Pycnogenol® for blood flow as well as low-doses of melatonin that helps me fall asleep faster and stay asleep through the night.

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A one-time purchase of The Let's Get Intimate costs only $77. Plus, Kindra ships straight to your door. Effective and convenient…. magical✨

What else is magical? My dryness and discomfort vanished within 3-4 days. I couldn't believe how quickly Kindra's Daily Vaginal Lotion worked! I'm back in the sack — having the best sex of my life. I also attribute this to my nightly Kindra beauty sleep 😊😊😊!

I'm so thrilled with all things Kindra, I signed up for a monthly subscription that saves me 20%! If you want to live a more intimate, sensual life, try Kindra. It's an invaluable resource for bodies at all stages of their menopause journey — from peri to post.

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