Being in a long-term relationship is wonderful, but it's not always a piece of cake. The daily grind and the waning of that "new relationship" excitement can weigh heavily on a couple. Whether you're young or young at heart, you are still in love and want to stay together for the long haul. Just because you are not newlyweds or just starting your relationship, it doesn't mean you can't keep it fresh and exciting. In fact, here are 15 ways to get sparks flying!
1. Dress for Dinner… at Home
Even if you're ordering in Chinese or eating leftover meatloaf, there's no reason you shouldn't look nice for your partner. Sitting around in stained sweats with oily hair is not exactly appetizing. No, you needn't dress to the nines, but at least put on a decent outfit and look presentable. If someone cooked for you, at least come to dinner like you appreciate it.
2. Sneak Off for a Midday Rendezvous
Pretend like you are secret lovers and meet up at lunchtime at home or at a nearby motel for some afternoon attention. You'll only have a limited time to spend, so make the most of it. You'll be anxious for the meetup all morning and have that certain glow to get you through the rest of the day.
3. Slip a Love Note into His Briefcase
Before your honey walks out the door, sneak a little note into his bag. Whether it's a sensitive love poem or a naughty idea for later that night, the thoughtfulness of the note will be appreciated and put a twinkle in his eye.
4. Cook Together
There's something sexy about cooking a meal with your mate. Stir, spoon, and savor every ingredient as you feed one another tiny tastes along the way. Creating something together bonds you and reminds you why you make a good team.
5. Recreate Your First Date
When things start to become ho-hum with your partner, surprise her with a date night exactly where you had your very first date. All the butterflies, excitement, and anticipation will come rushing back to you and you'll remember what made you fall in love in the first place.
6. Send Flowers for No Special Reason
Everyone expects flowers on their birthday, anniversary, or Valentine's Day, but aren't all the other days just as important? Send a bouquet to her office just because and make sure the card says something special. It's the little things that go a long way.
7. Do Something Daring
Skydive out of an airplane together. Ride a rollercoaster. Hike to the top of a mountain. Whatever you do, the adrenaline rush you'll get together will surely put you in the mood for more highs. You'll love that you did something so cool together and will want to continue to do have more thrills.
8. Stay Up and Talk
Tonight, no TV and falling asleep for you two. Lie in bed and talk about your day, your hopes and dreams, or even gossip about the neighbors. The intimate connection you have will be reinforced by your private conversations and bring you closer.
9. Bring Her Breakfast in Bed
Next Sunday morning, wake up early and stun your sweetie with breakfast in bed. Even if you are not a great cook, you can make a bowl of oatmeal and a cup of coffee. Your effort will be enjoyed and she'll love feeling extra special. Plus, you can hop back into bed and take it from there. Wink, wink.
10. Repeat Your Wedding Vows
Pick a special day, perhaps your anniversary, and reread your wedding vows to one another. No one else needs to witness it this time. Those touching words will make you feel so loved and you will flash back to the most memorable day of your relationship. You can even pen new vows to one another to add to the existing ones as your relationship grows.
11. Give Each Other Massages
You've both had a long day. Help one another relax by giving the other a deep massage. Work out all the kinks and alleviate the stress. Once you are both feeling loose and have had time to unwind, you'll be more in tune with one another's bodies and minds.
12. Do a Surprise Strip Tease
If your darling is sitting on the couch or is already in bed, give him an eye-popper with an impromptu strip tease. You don't have to be perfect. Just feel sexy and that's how you'll look. Your partner will love the attention and your out-of-the-box performance.
13. Take a Shower Together
When she least expects it, hop in the shower with your gal. The steam and heat will get you both feeling warm all over. Wash her body and don't miss any spots. When you are all clean, provide her with a nice warm towel straight from the dryer. You'll feel clean and a little dirty at the same time!
14. Role Play
When you're in a rut, maybe you need to be someone else for a night. Show up as a sexy surgeon or a naughty nurse. How about a frisky French maid or a pervy policeman. Whatever your fantasy is, go for it, it's only for fun. Letting yourselves go and exploring new sides of you personalities will surely get things exciting again.
15. Become Workout Buddies
Why exercise alone when you can get sweaty with your spouse? Hit the gym, go for a run, or take a class together. Getting those endorphins going and keeping in shape are surely aphrodisiacs. Another perk? Taking off those sweaty clothes and showing off your toned bods to each other.
So go for it. No need to let your relationship hit a standstill. Try these techniques to get your groove back!