Love might be blind, but that doesn’t mean meeting a potential partner without preparing for it. It’s a good way to find love without basing off on the other person’s online presence. We need more of this today, considering that online profiles fall short in showing our true selves. However, a blind date won’t turn out the way you’d expect, even if it’s set up by a trusted friend or family member.
Experience in romance doesn’t always guarantee a successful meeting. Your friends might assume the person will like you, although they don’t meet your criteria for a life partner. Still, the first impressions you have of each other could set the tone for an enduring relationship. As much as it is exciting, a blind date could just be the only time you would build an authentic connection with someone who could very well be your soulmate, that is, so long as you follow these important reminders.
1. Put Safety and Reliability First
It’s a mistake to assume the person you’re meeting is safe to be around. You won’t know for sure if they have had a shady background, and the friend or family member who arranged for your blind date might not even know it. Don’t let the excitement and mystery cloud your judgment and push your need for safety to the side.
It matters to ask your friend and family member about how long they’ve known this person. It’s also a good idea to ask the reason why they want you to meet this person in the first place. What’s more, let everyone know- where you’re meeting this person and when, just in case anything happens during your encounter.
2. Pick the Perfect Place
While keeping safety in mind, suggest a public place that’s accessible to both of you. It can be difficult to pick the best possible venue, but so long as the person setting up your blind date knows both of you well, your options could be narrowed down to a worthy few.
Cafe meetings are generic, but they are the safest option. Even if the other person isn’t an avid fan of coffee, there are alternatives they can go for. The same is true if your meeting happens in a bar. Whichever the case, the ambiance shouldn’t always be sophisticated and energetic. Your first encounter is supposed to be intimate, so go for a venue that’s quiet and chill.
3. Match Your Style
The choice of venue isn’t the end-all and be-all of a perfect blind date. The background could be romantic, but if you make your date feel uncomfortable, then everything else won’t work to your advantage. The way you carry yourself brings so much value to your first encounter, so looking good without compromising your genuine personality is just as much a priority as anything else.
If it’s happening at a high-end restaurant, opt for a sophisticated yet laid-back combination of semi-formal wear. Bear in mind that less is more. Your outward style is not the focus, but treat it merely as a complement to your personality.
4. Opt for Light Conversations
You might be compelled to break the ice with your date by talking about things you assume they like to talk about. However, not everyone will open up about their stand on sensitive issues. If they do, then you could spend too much time debating until you feel it’s not going to work out. Your first encounter should be focused more on neutral topics like the perfect vacation and how you became friends with the one who set up the meeting.
Take as much time as you can to understand each other’s personalities. If everything goes well, then you can talk about deeper issues in your subsequent meetings. What matters most is that you keep an open mind. Learn to listen to each other and, eventually, you might find common ground.
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The perfect blind date is impossible considering the variables at play. However, nothing should keep you from making the most of your time and effort in making a good first impression that results in a lifetime of genuine love.
